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Mother Madness

by alecweston ^Pro @ 2009-05-02 – 22:28:56

This evening, when I left my mother's for the long return journey home (see previous) she was in tears. I was treating her badly, apparently, by not appreciating how much she appreciated how much I was doing for her.

Madness. It felt like the worst kind of breaking up from a love affair that should never happened.

What can I do? She is such a control freak. She wants me do everything for her in precisely the way she wants while she watches. And enjoy what I'm doing!

For example, one of my many Saturday tasks is to do her filing. But no chance she will let me get on with it. The files are kept in the wardrobe in her bedroom (no other place to put them). So she lie on the bed and watches the filing - most of it useless (does she really need a record of her building societies' interest rates since the start of the century...).... Any sarky remark of mine is treated as a sign of adolescent neurosis.

She is coming up to 94. She wants me to help her get a new driving licence...

Will she ever, ever, ever die? Oh, God, I will believe in you if you give me some life after her death.
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- 2009-05-02 @ 22:37:43
*passing you a cushion for yer head*
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  - 2009-05-03 @ 09:58:50
  subz - I have only just seen the animation attached to this comment. Thanks. It's wonderful.
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    - 2009-05-03 @ 13:07:42
    Heehee! I bet the comment baffled you for a bit then
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      - 2009-05-03 @ 13:24:23
      Yes - it fell a bit into the category of "er...um.." !
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        2009-05-03 @ 13:34:12
        
        Oh good grief ... I've had rather a lot of those comments in the past. Used to bug me but it's amusing to think up random replies to them x
        
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- 2009-05-03 @ 08:38:40
Well at 94, she can't have more than 10 years left surely?? Mind you filing for 10 more years worth of Saturdays will probably send you criminally insane! You are a really good son to her, I wouldn't be doing that with my Saturdays I can tell ya, I'd pay someone to go and file for her and run round doing what she said, so at least you can rest assured that IF there is a God, and it is a big IF you will be rewarded. If there isn't of course, you have done it all for the love of your Mum, either way, you are a good person x
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  - 2009-05-03 @ 10:04:11
  Oh, we pay helpers to do her beck and call. One lives in (but has weekends off, for legal and sanity-recovery reasons) and another, local, arrived shortly after I left last evening at 8pm. But that is not enough. She wants her doting darlings. (My sister does more than I do and really, really is on the verge of nervous breakdown). x alec
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    - 2009-05-03 @ 10:08:49
    You are obviously both too caring, or would feel too much guilt to just leave her on her own. I wish I had your kindly streak, i am afraid I would (have) cut a parent loose to get on with my life, you don't have kids so they can martyr themselves for you later in life. You have them because it is a gift you are given, you nurture them and watch them grow, you let them go and watch with pride from a distance, you accept them back whenever they want to come, you do not, rule their lives when they are adults.
    At least you get the week off I suppose, I just don't know how people have that sort of patience, even for a day. i wouldn't and i salute you for it x
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