Today, my mother got into a panic looking at the form she would have to fill in to renew her Drivng Licence, about the time of her upcoming 93rd birthday. For a start, she will need a new passport=-type photograph of her self, and someone to endorse it, 'cos she doesn't have a current passport...
I gently express the opinion that, perhaps, she should drive any more (in practice she hasn't driven for a year). She says she feels safer driving than walking, I point out, as tacfully as I can, that driving is more likely to involve the safety of other people... Eventually, sobbing in the rather srtificil way she has, she agrees it might be better to call it a day on her 75 year driving career.
Of course not getting a licence is a symbol of the end of her life. (and has expensive insurance implications for me - a non car owner for 12 years - driving her car)
Anyway, at this moment, my sister - who does far more for our mum than I do - turns up. And although she is, in conversaion with me, if anything more horrified than I am at the thought of her ever driving again, she looks annoyed that I have confronted mother with an inconvenient truth.
So much easier to fill life with evasions and lies.
rithompson



So much easier and more tactful, but not necessarily in the person's best interests!