My ex-girlfriend rang me again tonight. She's the one who got in touch out of the blue 5 weeks ago, with whom I lived for 10 years - and we haven't been in touch for fifteen.
It was a shock to see her in January - and afterwards I ranted here about how much I hated her. But I don't want to deal with it - there's so much else in my life I need to deal with. One of the great thing about splitting up with someone (childless) is those endless rows and crap NEED NEVER BE RESOLVED.
She e-mailed me her phone numbers. I didn't reply. She sent me a jolly-jolly hap birthday text. No response from this end.
And now she phones, wondering if I would like to go round an art exhibition tomorrow...
I don't want a row, but I don't want to work things out. So, on the phone, I play all evasive and passive - as I always used to do. "I'm too busy to see you" I tell her. "And I must go now 'cos I'm in the middle of cooking." (True, but...)
Totally pathetic of me, I know.
"Well, maybe next time."
Well, it doesn't seem pathetic at all.
My boyfriend still runs to pick up the phone when his ex calls, still talks to her online and i still don't know what to do!
Trust him telling me that it's over and that he loves me so much or being cautious fo what could happen?
Believe me, it's better to make it clear no matter how it hurts the other person.
Cheers